Team No Sleep

This isn’t the first blog that I’ve done about sleep and it seems that it won’t be the last.

I’ve seen a few articles recently thanks to a lovely DS mummy. Articles that claim that they have the Magic answer to your child’s sleep problems, for example:

 

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Sleep practitioners who claim that for the princely sum of Β£300 that they can fix your child’s sleep issues and it’ll all be perfect and Mary Poppins will suddenly breeze into your life on her magic umbrella and as quick as you can sing “supercalifragilisticexpialidocious” the sleep problems will be fixed.

Yeah yeah whatever!

These articles, these specialists, make my eyes roll so far in the back of my head, that I’m amazed that I can click delete the link.

Now I know some people do have children who have sleep issues which is directly related to behaviour and poor routine. To be frank for most parents, if you take time to get a routine after a bit of quick research, you can sort the sleep thing. Or at least improve it.

For some kids though, there isn’t a magic wand, there’s no quick fix. And that’s ok.

These articles irritate me. When you’re a parent desperately searching for help, these articles can make you feel like a pretty shoddy parent. For these parents it’s not their fault, there isn’t a quick fix and they need to know that they aren’t alone in their struggles. Sleep deprivation is the absolute pits. It makes everything harder.

I’ve blogged about Evie’s sleep issues here before – https://itsallaboutevie.com/2015/04/14/let-me-tell-you-a-story/

The current situation for Evie is that she has had a more recent sleep study. Well…we tried to have a sleep study. It failed. If you fancy a giggle look at the posts from our aborted attempt…there’s always humour in every situation πŸ˜‚πŸ™ˆ

I’ve been ignored when I’ve requested advice from specialists so many times that now we just give up and take what comes our way. In fact I find the whole situation ludicrous. Consultants don’t know what else to do which is fine, at least they admit it. They don’t try to minimise, they listen and do what they can.

We’re having a bit of a reprieve lately which we’re enjoying. Since Evie’s had glandular fever she does seem more tired and the horrific nights aren’t as frequent, although still occur far too often for my and my lack of sleep’s liking. She still wakes…maybe we’re just used to it. Or perhaps after so many years we know that this is just how our beaut is…and IΒ am counting down the days until I have to drag her out of bed as a teenager!

For anyone suffering sleep deprivation you aren’t alone. Try everything, all of the suggestions, because they just may work.

There are so many ideas, bedtimes routine, night lights, no lights, blackout blinds, medication, essential oils, massage, lavender sprays, music…try them.

But if they don’t work, don’t feel bad about it. It’s not your fault.

You know there’s no such thing as a perfect sleep routine. There’s no ‘normality’. After all “normal is just a setting on a dryer honey”.

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5 thoughts on “Team No Sleep

  1. I agree with you entirely. A good, firm but flexible bedtime routine is the best way to promote healthy habits and optimise the chances of a good night’s sleep BUT,
    And it’s a big BUT … it’s not a panacea. You’re quite right that in some cases parents simply don’t have the experience or common sense to instil a bedtime routine, and it’s these parents that the so-called ‘specialists’ are aiming at (esp. the Β£300 a night ex-Norland nanny, setting her cap firmly at the more money than sense brigade). But with children who have additional needs/disabilities the reasons for sleeplessness are not just behavioural; they can be physical/physiological/medical, etc. One of the reasons Freddie still isn’t out of pull-ups at night is because I am so aware of how precious his good sleeping pattern is, that I am reluctant to disturb him to take him to the toilet incase I break the spell ( but if he wakes naturally then I offer to take him).
    I think if you asked one of these ‘specialists’ to intervene with a child with additional needs, they wouldn’t take you on, not even Mrs. 300 Nicker, because they know their methods wouldn’t work. However, dare I say it, if a typical parent were to ask one us SEND parents to sort out their little darling’s bedtime shenanigans, we’d soon sort it out – there’s nothing that ‘3 Day Nanny’ off the telly does that I haven’t done with all my kids (cos it’s common sense), and I’m a heck of a lot cheaper πŸ˜‰πŸ˜‚

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    1. I totally agree with you especially on the bedtime wetting/pants thing. Evie has got herself dry my through no intervention. I would never wake her.
      I’d love one of these miracle nannies pop in to help E. I would sit back and enjoy the carnage πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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  2. How you survive on soooo little sleep AMAZES me Kristy but I know its your dedication and true absolute unconditional love for your children that drives you forward. If it makes any difference….my granddaughter has no additional needs and bedtime and sleep is uber problematic for my daughter. Some children are just like that I suppose…. all part of the parenting learning curve. Keep doin what your doin chick cuz you’re doing an amazing job xxx

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